Chances are good that if you are reading this you are a mother (much of my readership being female and of a certain domestic bent). Chances are excellent that even if you are not personally a mom, there is a mother in your life: perhaps your spouse or the woman who brought you into this world.
Which brings me to Mother’s Day. My great hope for all you mamas out there is that your tireless, unending work is acknowledged and appreciated more often than once a year. My minimum hope is that your sole gift for the day isn’t pancakes made by a 4-year-old, with you responsible for kitchen clean-up. As all moms know, egg plus flour left on a counter becomes a kind of glue that can only be chipped off with a thumb nail. Usually at the cost of that nail.
Now, because I am a mom, I have naturally been so busy that it only just occurred to me that Mother’s Day is this Sunday, May 8th. Actually, someone (I believe my mother) had to remind me. So, here is my Mother’s Day wishlist, and I suspect the wishlist of many mama-gardeners out there.
10. Classes – I’d love to take advantage of some of the local gardening and urban homesteading classes and workshops offered around town. Learning is good, and getting out and talking to adults is good. Signing me up for an introductory beekeeping or permaculture class would be amazing. It would have to come with an offer to watch the kids, though, so I can actually attend (see below: Babysitting).
9. Gift Certificate + Walk Around Time – A gift certificate to the hardware store, the feed store or the nursery would be great, but what would make that into an awesome gift would be a free afternoon to enjoy wandering around any of those places without kids in tow (again, see below: Babysitting).
8. Several cubic yards of manure, compost, or premium vegetable garden soil. Delivered and willingly wheelbarrowed into place in the raised beds you built (hint, hint) shows extra-special-love. Yes, I’m the kind of girl who just longs to say she got shit for Mother’s Day.
7. Felcos – I desperately want these two-handed Felco pruners that double as mini-loppers and can take down a branch over an inch in diameter. And while I’m wishing big, how about a cool leather holster so I can walk around like the pros at the nursery? And, more importantly, so I stop leaving my clippers all over the garden. These clippers are for large-handed people, but since I have big-ol-hands I’m not too worried about it.
6. Muck Boots – After 6 years of hard wear, my Muck Boots have popped a hairline crack along the edge of the sole. I can still use them, but the water can just seep in if I splash in puddles – and I always splash in puddles. Cold wet toes do not a happy mama make. I’m a size 11 in women’s shoes. (Yes, I know I have huge feet. They go with my big hands.)
1. Time – Yes, the one thing every mom wants more of is time. Day-by-day we drive time away, running between school and soccer and the grocery store and work. We wash it away in countless loads of whites and darks and delicates, and pack it away with sack lunches and overnight bags and permission slips. It is lost with keys and cell phones and wallets and is never found, not inside purses or diaper bags or upstairs on the nightstand. Even when we make time for ourself it leaks out and around the edges, little crumbs of time spilled as we multi-task our lives away and feel guilt for what we just don’t have time for.
Moms never, ever have enough time. It is the greatest gift you can give the mom in your life. Sadly, even Amazon does not stock time. However, in lieu of time, several hours of someone else cooking and cleaning and looking after wee ones so we can get outside and play in the garden would be greatly, greatly appreciated.
Happy Mother’s Day to all my fellow moms. Motherhood is a Big Tent kinda party – try to be kind to each other, and yourself, as you make your way through.